Dear Brian, Altho I am pretty sure that I can't really express this right, I want you to know that your above post has given me alot of comfort.Since John's diagnosis, surgery and rad tx., I have been struggling daily with guilt. His diagnosis and treatment, including selecting the hospital and surgeon happened so quickly that not only were our heads spinning, I did not have time to do any research and after meeting the surgeon,John's attitude was "don't tell me anything, just get it done" [ however I did find OCF] Since his release from the hospital I have spent many hours here and have been filled with awe, confusion and frustration at how little I know compared to what I read here. Thanks to you, I'll sleep better tonite. Amy