One of Jim's former coworkers/friends came by to visit him about a week after he finished his treatments. Jim felt horrible and looked even worse but wanted to be courteous and visit with the friend. Maybe the conversation was lagging but the friend tells us how many funerals he'd gone to lately. Oh really? we ask. Yes, the first one was a friend who had been battling cancer for a while, then BAM it comes back and he goes quick. The second was a relative who was just "eat up with it."

I just wanted to cover my ears and Jim's too. Ugh, some people just don't think!


Debbie, 53 wife and caregiver to Jim, 68, non-smoker, social drinks only. Stage IV SCC rt. tonsil. HPV+. Neck dissection 12/29/09. Peg inserted 2/2/10. Cisplatin and rad started 2/9/10. Carboplatin given 2nd round. 3rd round cancelled due to toxicity. Finished 30 rad treatments 3/23/10.