I need to vent here. How about people who start giving medical advice to your husband who is terminally ill. I say" you are not his doctor, so be quiet." Or the person who says "how's his cancer?" I say, "here's his doctor's card, why don't you call him." Another one is "" I hear your husband has cancer", I say, "does that really make you feel better knowing that info, have a nice day". Walk away. The wife of my husband's best friend, who thinks it's her job to tell everyone in town our personal business. (we live in a very small town) I think I'll get my voodoo doll out. Taking care of someone who is ill is exhausting enough without dealing with idiots. I've risen above them and am trying to stay strong. Sorry , but I had to get this out.