I had to respond to this thread, "Don't you just hate it when�" On more than a few occasions, my husband and I have experienced the inappropriate questions and comments from friends and acquaintances. I am getting really good responding with "Why do you ask?" or "Why would you say that?"
It is disarming and it works!
Unfortunately, OC is obvious if your appearance has been altered from the effects of treatment. It takes an enormous amount of energy and courage to fight this battle. I don't want anyone's comments about my husband's appearance or lifestyle choices to make his life more difficult than it already is.
Hang in there!
Anita
Anita (68) CG to husband, Clark, 79, DX SCC 11/07, T4N0Mx, PEG 1/08, RAD, post rad infection 3/08, HBOT 40 dives, ORN, Surg 11/09 mandibulectomy w/fibular graft. Plastic Surg 4/10, 12/10, 3/11, 10/11, 4/12, 10/12. All PETS clear, PEG out 1/11. 6/11 non union jaw fracture Fractured jaw w/surgery 7/14 Aspiration pneumonia 7/21, 10/22 PEG 7/21 Botox injections
