WOW- great responses. It is reassuring that others (beside a cantankerous coot like myself) bristle at these inane remarks. I had not thought to include the actions of the medical profession which can be just as annoying but were posted here.

Even though I am religious, or perhaps because I am, another one that gets to me is: "Oh, God never gives us more than we can bear", as though my cancer was some Divine stress test. I do confess that references to Job are easier to take.

Let's keep them coming folks.


65 yr Old Frack
Stage IV BOT T3N2M0 HPV 16+
2007:72GY IMRT(40) 8 ERBITUX No PEG
2008:CANCER BACK Salvage Surgery
25GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin
Apaghia /G button
2012: CANCER BACK -left tonsilar fossa
40GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin

Passed away 4-29-13