Patty, when Christa was in 'that stage', she had many also that just wanted to drop by, all good intentions on their part, but not necessarily hers. YOU must have your wishes and feelings respected. A note on the door worked here too. Plus, I was a bulldog when it came to protecting her wishes. I hurt alot of feelings, but her wishes were top priority. If I made that clear, it usually worked. My heart is with you.......
'Hold, who you want to hold now.....it is your time.'