I just want to reiterate what all the absolutely lovely, compassionate, empathetic posters above have advised.
I am crying buckets with you and for you too - and for me.
To me, you are coping amazingly well. Thing is we don't have any choice, this escalator keeps going.
I am pleased your daughters now have a fuller appreciation of what you are dealing with 24 hours a day. My sons are 26, 24 and 20. They too are involved in our family journey. This is their dad. They have a right to know and only then can they make a decision on how they will react/ cope. Thing is I want to protect them and them me. Embrace your girls, I'm sure they will now be there for you both.
I hope you do get yourself a little dog, pets bring such unconditional love and
solace.
Lots of hugs and love to you,
Tammy

Caregiver/advocate to Husband Kris age 59@ diagnosis
DX Dec '10 SCC BOT T4aN2bM0 HPV+ve.Cisplatin x3 35 IMRT.
PET 6/11 clear.
R) level 2-4 neck dissection 8/1/11 to remove residual node - necrotic with NED
Feb '12 Ca back.. 3/8/12 total glossectomy/laryngectomy/bilat neck dissection/partial pharyngectomy etc. clear margins. All nodes negative for disease. PEG in.
March 2017 - 5 years disease free. Woohoo!