I'm so sorry that you've heard more bad news. I feel that we grieve throughout this whole process. We grieve each loss, poor test result, loss of function, loss of our former lives. It's not to say that the grieving you will experience in the end of life is happening now. Like Christine said, nothing can really prepare you for what is to come.

As far as your job, perhaps you can try it out and see how you handle things. You probably want to give your manager or HR rep a head's up as to what is going on in your life outside of work. Hopefully, they will be nothing other than understanding.

I wish peace and comfort to you both in the coming times. Please don't hesitate to reach out when you need a hand.

xoxo,
Kerri

37 y/o fem at Dx (23 wks preg @ dx on 3/16/11)
SCC L oral tongue (no risk factors)
L partial gloss/MND 3/28/11 @ 25 wks preg
T1-2N0M0; no rads/chemo
Tonsillectomy on 8/6/12 +SCC L tonsil T2-3N1M0 (HPV-)
Treated with 35 rads/7 carbo & taxol (Rx ended 10/31/12), but many hospitalizations d/t complications from rx.
Various scans since rx ended are NED!
Part of genetic study for rare cancers @ MGH.
44 years old now...I wasn't sure I would make it! Hoping for 40 more!