I have an idea...why don't you call hospice but don't tell Matt it's hospice. Just tell him you need some help in caring for him. I've heard so many wonderful things about hospice care and I'm sure it will be a relief on you. It sounds like he's freaking out when he hears the word hospice, so why does he have to know?? Just a thought...

Hugs,

Shelley

Caregiver to husband Ron. Throat Cancer. Finished 35 radiation treatments on 11/21/04. 8/2/11 small lesion on lower gum, laser Procedure to remove. 3/6/12 Doc. removed another lesion on outside of his neck. Did a skin graft from his chest to replace the skin on his neck. Went to Heaven on 6/24/12.