Adding my welcome! It is very important that if TORS is used that they are still going to obtain clear margins - make sure that you discuss that with the surgeon. Christine's suggestion of getting a second opinion is a good one.
There are many, many cases where surgery does the trick very well. It is a big thing to face, but with support and a positive attitude (which you sound like you have) you will get through it. Best wishes, Maria
CG to husband - SCC Tonsil T1N2M0 HPV+ Never Smoker First symptoms 7/2010, DX 12/2010 TX 40 IRMT (1.8 gy) + 10 Cetuximab PET Scans 6/2011 + 3/2012 clear, 5 year physical exam clear; chest CT's clear of cancer. On thyroid pills. Life is good.