 Administrator, Director of Patient Support Services Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 10,507 Likes: 7 | TL
Welcome to OCF. Im so sorry you are here, but at the same time you will need this site to help you both thru this. Your boyfriend sure has placed a huge burden on you with his secrecy. You will need help caring for him even just a break to catch your breath. Treatments are difficult, he may lose his voice like most of us towards the end of treatment. People will notice he is ill, this isnt like a cold or flu, its a long rough road that is easily recognized by people who know him.
I am one of the very few who did not have a real caregiver. I also ended up in the hospital more times than I want to remember due to no one helping me with meds, hydration, counting calories, etc. I lost 65 pounds and my ability to drive.
I hope he overcomes his pride and lets people know so you both will have some support and assistance. Best of luck with everything.
ChristineSCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44 2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07 -65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr Clear PET 1/08 4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I surg 4/16/08 clr marg 215 HBO dives 3/09 teeth out, trismus 7/2/09 recur, Stg IV 8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy 3wks medicly inducd coma 2 mo xtended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit PICC line IV antibx 8 mo 10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg OC 3x in 3 years very happy to be alive  | 
