When we were just starting out on this adventure, one of my young friends, a pediatric oncologist just completing her residency, encouraged me to learn as much as possible about the disease, and that soon I would know as much about it (as she put it) as a first year resident. Not the general medical background, of course, but specific details, recent studies, treatment protocols, and so on. I think that some doctors have a clue about the overwhelming burden of the cancers that they treat - when we attended my friend's wedding least year, her daddy painted a picture of her sitting with her patient's parents late on a Friday, explaining details to them - in English or Spanish. I am pretty sure she is one of the good ones.