So sorry! JEEZ people can be so insensitive. I bet her was just nervous. Sometimes when people get nervous they say exactly the wrong thing.

Its like when someone laughs during a funeral...know what I'm talking about?

No excuse though, but I think that's what happened. Sometimes its just better not to be chatty... especially if you are going to blab away about something completley inappropriate and upsetting to the person but some people dont' get it!

Lets hope that your husband's friend had good intentions. I"m sure that he did. People just don't know how to handle themselves sometimes during emotionaly intense moments. I'm sure he was a good dear friend with only the best wishes for Jim and for you.Certainly wasn't anything either of you needed to hear.