Misty

It will get better. You made me laugh with that Ned joke. The first time I heard the phrase it was "Dancing with NED" from a cancer blog entry from a Breast cancer survivor. I was wondering who that Ned character was or if it was some obscure reference. It did not dawn on me that it was just an acronym for no evidence of disease. We use a lot of acronyms here as a form of shorthand.
But you have come to the right place. Scroll back through this thread and see how IT'S NOT YOU, we have all experienced the type of thoughtless that is oh so trying. Our emotions are so raw after this that it's a relief to be with people who understand.
Keep the faith
Charm