Anita

I hear you loud and clear. I've always lived by the motto that the best defense is a good offense and since the scenario you described is so commonplace and happens so often, I make a point of working into such new meetings that as a result of the cancer surgery, I sound like Dick Clark on the New Year's eve TV shows. People are going to be curious and as you have found out, some are also stupid and thoughtless. And while you can slap someone silly, you can't slap them smart.
Charm