I hope we see her back. Who knows what else she is dealing with. It's understandable at this stage that she and her partner will be looking for reassurance without question from their doctors - especially if she and the family are at the totally freaked out stage of the proceedings.
But yes, she's misguided in not trying to educate herself so she can advocate for her husband and do what's best for him.

Brother 49yo DX 22/6/11 Tonsil SCC HPV+ Stage IV T4N1(?)M0. Carbo/docetaxel (Taxotere)19/7, 11/8 (with E-tux), 1/9; E-tux 11/8, 25/8, 15/9, 30/9, 14/10, 28/10; IMRT X 35 (70gy tumour;63gy nodes;56gy gen area) 19/9-4/11/11. Clear PET scan 1/2/12. 1 and 2 year post treatment checks good.