[quote=Charm2017] Suffice it to say that while it's sad when posters quit, it would be worse if the OCF forum was reduced to only "poor baby - I wish you well" posts (not that there is anything wrong with those types of posts, I certainly have liked getting them myself on OCF and found them supportive) for fear of upsetting fragile personalities. Sometimes the decisions and positions evinced by posters should be challenged and not supported. Charm [/quote]

Exactly. I do not think that we are being helpful if we stand by and do not challenge something that, in our experience, seems offtrack and possibly life threatening. In doing so, we risk making the poster feel second guessed but in the scheme of things, feeling second guessed is by far the lessor of two evils.

Deb


Deb..caregiver to husband, age 63 at diagnosis, former smoker who quit in 1997.
DIAGNOSIS: 6/26/07 SCC right tonsil/BOT T4N0M0
TREATMENT START: 8/9/07 cisplatin/taxol X 7..IMRT twice daily X 31.5.
TREATMENT END: 10/1/07
PEG OUT: 1/08
PORT OUT: 4/09
FOLLOWUP: Now only annual exams. ALL CLEAR!

Passed away 1/7/17 RIP Bill