lady1

OCF forum is a package deal. You get all the emotional support from the caregiver community but you also get opinions. It's no problem if you chose not to listen to them. Most all of us rely upon our doctors' opinions, it's just that with 8.000 plus members, the difference between "expert" doctors on oral cancer protocols becomes crystal clear in a way that an individual does not get to see otherwise.
Your apparent faith in a medical degree or oncology fellowship as a badge of correct information is rather quaint IMO. I will bet you have never been a juror in a medical malpractice case. You don't know how much I wish the doctors would all agree on how to treat oral cancer and what to do. Sadly they don't.
We have spirited discussions here on those difference of medical opinions about the PEG, Erbitux, re-irridation, TSH tests and many many posters find these opinions very helpful in framing questions to their doctors. I'm sorry you don't
Still, I hope your husband pulls through fine.
Best wishes
Charm