Christine, I think you should sit down with the girls and have an honest conversation about what is going on. Let them ask all the questions they have and answer them to the best of your ability. If they aren't aware of the situation and what is going on they might resent you if something happens. My kids are 24 and 26 and I am divorced from their father. If something was going on with their father I know that they would want their step-mom to give them all the information she has. I'm so sorry that you are going through this but appreciate your honesty.

As morbid as it is when my mom was dying from pancreatic cancer I wanted to know the stages and what to expect. I know that every patient and situation is different but it helps us caregivers to hear the good, the bad and the ugly.

Wanda (47) caregiver to husband John (56) age at diag.(2009)
1-13-09 diagnosed Stage IV BOT SCC (HPV+)
2-12-09 PEG placed, 7-6-09 removed
Cisplatin 7 weeks, 7 weeks (35) IMRT
4-15-09 - treatment completed
8-09,12-09-CT Scans clear, 4-10,6-11-PET Scans clear
4-2013 - HBO (30 dives) tooth extraction
10-2019 - tooth extraction, HBO (10 dives)
11-2019 - Left lateral tongue SCC - Stage 2