Christine, I am so sorry for the news you received. I think about you and Matt often and will surely keep you in my prayers.

You mentioned pre grieving and yes, there is such a thing. It's call anticipatory grief.... there are numerous psychiatric articles and hospice articles on that process. It may be helpful to know that what you are experiencing is normal. Caregivers have two "patients" the terminally ill and themselves. Caring for yourself during this time is often difficult as guilt is likely to try to rear it's ugly head.

I hope you and Matt are able to enjoy love and peace and you make this journey together. And please be easy on yourself... you've been through so much.

Love to you.

Dodie