susan,
taking a pad and pen to the dr visits is a great idea. i did this and not only wrote down questions in advance, but wrote down all the terminology that came out of the drs mouth and looked it up later on the net. they will throw some words at u that u cant possibly understand.

u and dave are in for a whirlwind of dr visits/proceedures in the coming weeks...it can easily get overwhelming, so have one designated place to store all the "stuff" u will get from the drs. buy a notebook...its alot easier to locate a notebook than loose sheets of paper.

and lol...i have no doubt that someone from nyc can be aggressive...my hubby is from queens.