2 full days in the hospital now and no word from him. He does this all the time...ignoring all texts. It's a 2 hour drive round trip to go see him and it would be nice to know something. Family is getting pretty irritated with the lack of communication.

My oldest is going to stop and see him tomorrow while near the hospital. I sent 2 new shirts for him to change into so he can at least feel human.

I'm guessing he was a lot sicker than just dehydrated but wondering if they did a brain scan or decided it wasn't necessary.

The good thing is, I'm getting some rest because I know he is safe and being taken care of thank goodness as he wasn't willing to take care of himself by trying to beat the system.

I called the HR person about disability as he won't be going back to work in 9 days but no response to either call. Not sure if they are allowed to talk to the spouse so I called and let her know that he can't talk to her as he has no voice to speak. Hopefully hear back tomorrow.


Spouse of 58 yr old with BOT cancer
Stage 4a HPV16 positive
3 chemo treatments cisplantin
35 radiation treatments 7000 cGy
former smoker/chewed tobacco for 38 yrs.
1/2020 diagnosed with cancer near TMJ
4/2020 chemo 5 days every 2 weeks
6/2020 proton therapy
9/21/2020 cancer free