Cheryl, being a caregiver is not an easy job at all. I commend you in everything you have done for your husband. he is very lucky, too bad he cant see the whole picture and realize how fortunate he is.

I wouldnt be surprised if his thyroid and testosterone levels were low and that he wasnt suffering from depression as well. In his situation who wouldnt be upset and not thinking straight? This may be why he isnt able to comprehend anything besides his point of view. It almost sounds like he doesnt see you as his ally but more of someone who isnt fully signed on for this battle. Im sure he would not go with the idea of speaking to any professionals about the situation. It wouldnt hurt getting his blood levels checked as well. Never know it may help.

Hang in there, your new BFFs are here to support not only your husband but you as well. We are here for you both.