whoa whoa whoa. I started this thread because I have long been curious quite a while about the preponderence of female caregivers on a board for a cancer that impacts men at least threefold over women plus some HPV studies show that 80% of HPV oral cancer will be men. But I never actually started it because I was concerned that so many of the caregivers here are so mama grizzly protective of their male patients that I knew many would ascribe dastardly motives to me.
Now I'm not talking about Liz's wisecrack -which I found wonderful as it's no secret I believe I'm exceptional - a literal Legend in my Own Mind. Add my over the top tough guy patter-plus my views on PEGS, Neck Dissections, Petscans that contradict some of the caregivers' doctors opinions (all of whom went to school in the 20th century ) and last but not least: smart ass comments like that last parenthentical mean I rub a lot of readers the wrong way. Boo Hoo As the country song goes:
[quote]I'm wild and a little crazy too
Some girls don't like boys like me
Aww but some girls do
[/quote] I get many more very nice PMs from the "charmed ones", then diatribes from upset ones.

I am going right to the source to see the real reasons.
Lots of caregivers here do openly vent their frustrations with their patients so my question about whether the cg prefers to be the only one on OCF is legitimate.
So back on track: please continue to share the reasons you as a caregiver are here rather than the patient. You are helping me with a mystery that my personal style makes unthinkable for myself.
OCF is a wide community and we all bring different talents to this table, and we have a surfeit of warm loving totally accepting and supportive people here, so there is certainly room for someone like me.
Keep the Faith