Charm, I came to this site for much the same reasons as many of the wives/caregivers here. To find out as much information as I could about OC from a valuable resource- the ones going thru it. Doctors can tell you what you will experience, but they do not HAVE OC. Stats scare me to death, and of course they have to tell you what they know, which is enough for John and perhaps why he does not log on here himself. I do not press him to join in, admittedly somewhat reluctant to have him learn more than he needs to know. Perhaps it's the mother in me. Perhaps it's just fear in him. More likely a combination of both. All of the posts help me learn that we are not alone in this fight and this is a safe place. Thank you to all.