Sandy, on 5/1, you mentioned pitbull & lipstick in the same sentence. Neither are you a pit bull, or even need lipstick. I think if J doesn't want you around, move on. If he does, charge him a carers payment!!.. The men that are part of this forum are legends. The others are scared. If we were all the same, there would be no forum. I feel for those that are scared, but they need to have respect for their caregiver. Without the carer, the patients may not be still living. Makes me cranky that even my brother won't get a prostrate exam due to fear, as he is gay. I would rather have a prostrate exam than a pap smear!! Don't worry about things too much if there is no love.....there still needs to be an element of care from you if you are still there.... Jeans.... he might have to learn the hard way hon.....J....xxxxx.....Too many men think they are heros, but they are sooks.....