Oh Charm....you ask the toughest questions! I came because it was the absolute best place to get info and answers from those of you who have been there and done that! Mike's diagnosis was December and he was in treatment a couple weeks later. It was a scramble and then he had an allergic reaction to the chemo so was knocked silly on Benadryl a lot. Gave me a lot of time on my hands to ponder so instead I chose to educate myself. He isn't here because of his anxiety and because when it might have helped him most, he just wasn't on the computer at all. I have been blessed to find this place and although I don't come back and post often, I still read.