Charm - I, too, favor the indomitable fighter group. I am awed by them. Their strength and compassion and knowledge have been instrumental in helping my son to survive. I am more than grateful every day that we have them. That goes for all the caregivers who fight on, gathering research and doing all the things they do to help their loved ones to survive. They have given me a courageous example to follow. I don't know if I'm the only one, but there were many times, when I was glad my son was not a participant on this forum. It "depressed" him, he said so he was on here only briefly. And I understood because I only needed to remember the anxiety I felt when faced with the shocking diagnoses of cancer and the possibility of losing him - and I was only the caregiver! I was glad that I could be here and freely express my fears away from my son to whom I presented the "fighter Mom" mode and only cried when I was away from him.
Anne - Maybe Gordon left the research up to you because he knows your strength and love for him, and has the confidence in you to be able to allow him to use all his strength to do the surviving part of the fight. I'm glad he has you.