Thanks for that Brian!
I look like I came out of "Night Of The Living Dead" back then ;-) I can't put weight on - even with all of the In-n-Out, pizzas and milkshakes. Maybe I have a tapeworm ha ha. Who am I to complain, at least I'm not fat, I'm still on this side of the grass and all of my labs look good.

Chiming in with Brian, men don't do helpless well. We either get angry or depressed and there is a fine line between the two.

Confronting your mortality is daunting to say the least - I had friends who dissapeared because they couldn't handle facing their mortality because of my disease.

I might also suggest that information you glean here be used in the context of fine tuning the dialog with his medical team since you are, essentially, his advocate. You don't necessarily need to mention that you got the information from OCF, especially if your husband is in the room. More often then not many CG's just want some validation that the issues their significant others are having are to be expected and not abnormal.