I've often wondered why it is that I've come to this forum and Gordon never has. He never wanted to read anything about the cancer, treatment, care, or anything even remotely related to it. I've been the one who has done all the research, tried to convey information that I thought would help him, advised him on how important the dental care is, etc., etc.

I'll never understand what's going on with him and probably never will. Maybe he left all of the above up to me because he could barely cope with the idea that he had cancer and that he had to go through treatment. Maybe he couldn't deal with anything more than just getting himself into that radiation room every day.

Sure, I would have liked him to be on this forum, be more proactive and take more responsibility for his treatment and recovery. But he didn't, and that, I think, is that.

Charm, I think your question is really one of the great imponderables. I like to think that if I were the patient, I'd want to get all the information and support I could find, but maybe not...
Anne
PS - Gordon's surgeon said recently, "you're going to die of something, Mr. W., but it won't be tongue cancer." He has a weird sense of humour.