Nelie, Having been through something like your situation, I have a little advice, it's free (and worth every penny!) Make plans and arrangements to live without him, but leave the back door to your heart open just a bit, just in case.

Best of luck in whatever transpires...
Andrea

SCC L lat tongue,Dx 9/15/05 T1N0MX L MND and L lateral hemiglossectomy 10/03/05. Recurrence 11/15/06 2nd surgery 12/04/06 hemiglossectomy 3rd surgery 01/15/07 tonsillectomy Radiation 01/25/07 to 03/08/07 3-D/CRT X 30