Nelie,
It is really heartbreaking being deserted by someone whom you have loved so dearly. We can only manage things within our control and for things that are beyond our ability to control, let go. The marital relationship of a couple is something outsiders can hardly understand or give advice. Marriage counsellers may help to some extent but when one party has become stony,the other should learn to be strong to face the adversity. Nelie, this is not the end of the world and you still have a lot of friends supporting you.