Wow, Nelie, you are one strong lady! I am amazed at how much you have had to deal with and yet, you are still coping, and coping pretty well! Boundaries are a good thing, especially for people who don't negoiate well and espec. for those who like to bully to get their way. I have no special insight into marriage or divorce (been there done that, more than once!), but I am impressed at how calm you seem & how you are taking care of yourself. You are very strong, whether you know it or not! Hang in there. - Candace