Judith,

Please don't take anything your husband says or does personally. My brother, who passed in 2006, used to throw things at my mother, who was his main caregiver, and used to tell me tht she is trying to kill him. He wouldn't let her in the room most of the time. Only when he slept could she go in and do what she had to. Sometimes when I was taking care of him, he looked at me in disgust and questioned everything I did. But he did snap out of it and aplogized a million times and told us he loved us. He said he couldn't help what he was doing.

It was a sad, crazy time but we all knew we loved each other and nothing he ever did during that time I ever took personally. I know I loved him, he loved us and I will always remember the brave battle he fought. He was my hero.

So just take a day at a time. YOu are doing a great job, and just remember he loves you, its the medication, not you.

All my best.

Susan