Hang in there, Judith. This is a roller coaster from hell! Jim and I have only been married (2) years and we "upped" our marriage due to the cancer and the fact that he needed a care giver....it will be a roller coaster for you. Smoking is a personal choice and while Jim and I have never smoked, I always looked at the addiction like weight...you know you need to do something about it, but it is a personal choice that only the person himself can make. Hang in there...you have found the best place to land...we are all here to help, in good times and in bad! It will be tough, but I tend to agree that if he doesn't stop smoking NOW, then why bother with going thru the pain.

We're all here for you!

Paula