My husband had a similar operation last September 17. He was in surgery for 12 1/2 hours. He made it through but there were times I didn't think I would. He probably will not remember much of his stay at the hospital due to the pains meds he will be given. He will have to be kept comfortable with minimal head movement so he will probably be kept calm. My husband, Neil, doesn't remember the hell he put everyone through. It will be tougher on you, so YOU must remain calm not only for him but for yourself. It will help you stay attentive to anything going on in regards to his care. I'm not saying it will be easy because it most certainly will not but the calmer you stay the better for all involved. You can do this, Sue

cg to husband, 48 Stage 1V head and neck SCC. First surgery 9/07. Radiation and several rounds of chemo followed. Mets to chest and lungs. "Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain." Went home to God on February 22, 2009.