Bhavna, This is a really tough situation you all are in. Both of you are going to have to muster all of your strenght to get through it together. OV's role is to do everything he can to get well [and learn to deal with this] and your role is to figure out how to deal with all the pressure and flak that comes with the territory and learn as much as you can about how to help. This may not be a role you want to accept-that's up to you- but he is stuck with his. All the caregivers have experienced the things you are dealing with now, in one form or another, and wish we could do more to help you through it. It's going to take all of your strenght, love and patience to get to the end of this together. We are pulling for you. Amy