Bhavna,

I was the patient not the CG so I can only imagine what you are going thru. Other CG's will address that side.

From OV's perspective, we have all felt angry and it's easier, not correct, to take it out on someone we think will tolerate it. Have his docs been informed about these "fits". They may want to recommend he speak to someone to get a handle on his depression before Tx starts because it doesn't get easier for a long time to come.

You have both been through a lot and unfortunately you have a lot left to go through. I think he would benefit greatly by posting a few things himself but usually only one of the affected people do the postings. It was all I could do to get my wife to read some postings and I made sure I thought she would really relate to what I wanted her to read before I printed them.

As far as the weight loss...50 pounds sounds like a lot for surgery but I don't know where he started. Four cans doesn't sound like much but that depends on the calories in each can. I was told to consume 2000 cals and 48 ozs water per day which was tough. He needs to keep his docs informed and in my opinion, add whatever pounds he can before Tx starts.

Hang in there and do as much as you can but remember you both are not perfect so don't expect that you will act like one.