BM, I feel so badly for the both of you. You are so young to have to deal with this life changing experience. I guess the bottom line is that it will make you decide how tough you both really are and what being alive means to you. With any infirmity or disability must come an attitude that can learn to cope in order to survive. Hopefully OV will dig deep and find the attitude he needs. This will probably take some time and you both need to know that the radiation tx. will not be easy. Keep reading and researching OCF to learn what you need to know and keep posting- there are alot of people pulling for you both. Amy