Hellion, I haven't weighed in because, frankly, it sucks to hear the news. I, too, think of your family and can't imagine what you are experiencing. AI even shed a few tears for you.
There is nothing in life I know that has been worse than seeing doctors that stop looking you in the eye to tell you how sorry they are. I stopped counting in double digits about 4 years ago.
If there's anything I can do, let me know. If you want to get a second opinion around here or Houston, I would be glad to help make that happen.