Cindy,I truly understand how you are feeling now.I have gone through similar emotional turbulence as your husband 3 years ago when I suffered from severe depression after treatment. I also felt I was useless, hopeless and a burden on my family. I thought ending my life was the best way to get myself released. I upset everybody in my family and they lived in fear that they would lose me any time. This depressing mood lasted about a month until my husband got me a clinical psychologist to see me every day. I also had relatives visiting me in turns and watching me, making sure I wouldn't do anything harmful to myself. I was never left alone because my feeling of committing suicide got stronger and stronger. When the situation did not improve, we sought help from the oncologist who then referred me to the psychiatrist in the hospital. From that point I took antidepressants but that didn't help either because the medicine took more than 3 weeks to be effective. After a short while, I was admitted to the psychiatric ward for treatment. I had daily counselling from psychiatrist and medicine for the whole month and then I was discharged when I gradually recovered. After that, I still had to take antidepressants for over a year and I still have to see my psychiatrist every 3 months.I always tell people that depression is more terrible than cancer. I hope that your husband is just emotionally unstable and not suffering from real depression. Get some medical help or support group if things do not improve.

Karen.