Rosie,

Thank you for your post....You were not cold at all..You were just realistic and that is what I need to hear..The doctors are saying what you are...That there is nothing that can be done to CURE her...But only pain management.....But the patches she is wearing arent even helping.....Rosie..My heart goes out to you as well..I feel so bad for HEather and for what you and her went through...My goodness...I am speechless right now.....

Rosie, what do you suggest to me for my mom??? What kind of pain management, etc....I am just so lost right now...And you are so right about everything.....I feel sometimes why not cry in front of my mother...And the thought of losing her is the worst pain I have ever had to experience......So far in life ( I am 40 now)...

We canceled the biopsy...The CT was pretty definitive about a recurrance..we cant know for sure without a biopsy but it looks that way, and we dont want our mother to suffer at this point..Chemo is not an option..She is way too weak and has a nasty infection..Osteomyeltis in her jaw bone right now..So she cant do it anyway..The doctor did mention Iressa but that is my mothers decision.....She has fought so hard....But she has suffered terribly along the way....and if she could be cured, then great...But I am afraid to prolong her suffering...That is not fair to her..It is completely 100% her decision...But I will support her anyway she decides..But she seems to have given up....She is tired...and weak.....

Rosie. this is a HARD QUESTION....But Rosie, the doctor 2 months ago told my mother she had less than a year to live..Since that time, she has really declined healthwise...You said my mom and Heather's cases were very similar...So, from your experience ( I know you are not GOD and dont have a crystal ball)..But I am curious....WHat can I expect..and how long do you think my mom can keep on fighting this? I am just curious as to what to expect here.....Is the pain going to get much worse?? Will her airway be blocked?? All these things concern me and I am scared....The unknown is frightening and that is what I am going through.....I am scared for her....I am more scared of the suffering than losing her right now......I am trying to be a good daughter and do everything I can to try to make this better but it just seems to get worse..I try and try and try.......But maybe I just need to accept the fact that it isnt up to me an I cant fix it...Im not God....

Thanks Rosie so much again...I just love ya

Stephany