Patty, Ask any time about any thing. You have a heavy load to carry and many here will help with the load if they are able.

Brandon, You are OK! you have been through a terrible thing. Your insights about what happened to you and Tony have value. The "cage" here gets rattled sometimes but we usually survive (we are experienced survivors). Expressing yourself is perhaps both helpful for you as it is for the readers. From my seat as long as comments aren't personal attacks or wacky untruths, generally they will be well received here.

Speak softly and more people listen. smile

Mark, 21 Year survivor, SCC right tonsil, 3 nodes positive, one with extra-capsular spread. I never asked what stage (would have scared me anyway) Right side tonsillectomy, radical neck dissection right side, maximum radiation to both sides, no chemo, no PEG, age 40 when diagnosed.