Hi Patty,
Yes I've come up against doctors like this, but it may not be as clear cut as it first seems, doctors know we are all different and we all have a different level of "Need to Know" My husbands level of a need to know is much lower than mine, and I have had to learn to respect that, so the doctors have a steep learning curve based on the individual, when Joe asks the right questions of the right person, at the right time it is more likely to result in the truth, but doctors know if they try to give you too much too soon you will crumble under the load. Don't know if this will help at all, but you are both in my prayers and thoughts.
love and hugs Helen