Hi Diane. Your comment was very well put. It's like some things you just can't talk to your friends and co-workers about. It's not that they are uncaring people - but unless you know someone who has had a person go through this type of cancer - people just don't understand what we're going through. I have my mom and siblings - and since I had a brother who passed away in 1997 at age 50 of malignant melanoma - they DO know what cancer can do to a person. However, they don't see what my husband has to go through with the constant, never-ending phlegm problem, the swallowing difficulties and choking, etc. that are exculsive to head and neck cancer patients. So what you said about this site being an outlet to vent is so true - what a blessing for this - otherwise there would be a lot of "exploded" wives around the country! Wishing everyone here all the best always. Take care.