Thank you all for your wonderful advice.

This is difficult for me but much more difficult for my mother. I have to get over it and just go. She lives 10 minutes from my house, there really is no excuse. I have talked to my sisters and they have agreed to go over there with me. I have been assured by my therapist that each time I go it will make it easier for the next. The hardest part I think for me is watching her suffer!

I am definitely being proactive. I havent holed up in my bedroom, I am taking medication and talking to a therapist. I am trying to assure that I am doing everything humanly possible to get over my fear so that I can be there for my mom.