Claudia...you have such a warm kind way about you. Your posts are so sweet to Colleen.

Colleen, I do agree with the others. You need to be there with your mom. I can obviously only speak for myself but I know I would feel guilty if I didn't spend time with my mom. Also, it is important that you talk to her just like you used to. Are you very close to her? Did you used to tell her what was happening in your life? If you did, continue to do so. I'm sure she would love it. Since I am the patient, I know how much I appreciate when people don't treat me differently. My future husband, sister, and mom are the only ones who are good that. I encourage you to be one of those people for you mom. Be sad and cry and yell when you're alone or with your therapist!!

Suzanne
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T1 SCC on right side of tongue
Age 31...27 when diagnosed
4 partial glossectomies
No chemo or radiation
Biopsy on 2/2/10-Clear
Surgery needed again...no later than April 2011
Loving life and just became a mother on 11/25/10
It's not what we CAN'T do..it's what we CAN do:)