Thanks everyone for all the kind words - and no it doesn't offend me at all, Sue. I am at a loss right now. Jim went to radition today and they zapped him good in the belly to get to his spine - he threw up several times in the Dr.'s office and we are home now - he's asleep. Dr. said the nausea will disappear as quckly as it came on. No one ever thinks about people that only have one leg...he just can't run to the bathroom, but has to rely on crutches or a bucket.

I'm off of work the rest of the week - we go see the oncologist tomorrow to see what type of chemo cocktail they want to do for him. His parents come up on Wednesday and we will spend time with them - Thursday we see an attorney for all the legal stuff - I don't want to go there at all...Jim says we have to do it. Since we don't have children together, I don't see the sense in any of it, but he does, so I will comply. He did say that maybe this weekend we could go to a bed and breakfast to spend some time together. Right now his brother is staying with us (who annoys the s..t out of me, but he really means well and he really helps out a lot. The house that I wish now that we hadn't purchased is down to the bare bones and I don't even begin to know how to put it back together without Jim. We have the $, I just don't know how to go about getting a reliable source to help us out. I think it's funny, that I work at Mary Kay in Dallas and have for 15 years and have worked on the Habitat for Humanity Homes (Jim has even been so gracious to fire up his huge smoker and bring it to the jobsites to feed all the volunteers) and now I am faced with trying to get a home remodeled. I am trying to convince him to sell and let's cut our losses, but no way - he does not want me commuting 1 1/2 hrs. each way every day. So I am trying to be patient and sit on my hands AND mouth! His parents keep telling me that this will help keep Jim busy and his mind off of the situation as much as possible. They are wonderful people and I hate that they hurt so much. I hate that Jim is hurting so much....I'm glad that I have my cyber friends very, very much.


Thank you for all of your support.

Paula


Caregiver to Husband 50 yrs.young-non smoker/non-drinker; Stage IV - all treatments stopped August 2009
Lost the battle November 23, 2010