Paula- I started the conversation about the future and final plans. I took Minnie's advice- had the conversation and let it go. We just had our wills done which is something we should have done awhile ago since we have children. That also included power of attorney and living will. The power of attorney is important so you will have access to accounts and records. I know this is difficult to deal with but I feel so much better now that it is done. Next step- I want to start dealing with funeral issues. This is the worst but I will have to deal with teenagers and want to have things already planned.
I'm really sorry if this upsets you but I think it actually makes you feel alittle "in control" of things we otherwise have no control over. As for remaining time- we really don't know except for the opinion of the oral surgeon who just told us that based on the size of my husband's tumor he would say he has about 2 years. His surgery was 9 months ago and so far the metastasis has not responded to chemo. He has one more dose of Taxotere before he has another scan. That should give us more info. I just pray we have a great summer with all of us together because I don't think the fall and winter coming up will be.

Sue