Amy - I think of you often and am encouraged that you continue to join us in expressing your concerns and feelings. It's good that you have family even if they may not be as supportive as you feel they should. Sometimes in expressing our concern to someone surviving a loss, it's difficult to know what or how to say it. The fact that your Dad sensed that you were upset, means he really cares about you and about how you are processing the loss of your Mother. Sometimes the message received is not always the message sent. It's very possible that the words he used may not have had anything to do with thinking you should be "over it by now" but it could just have been deep concern for the hurt you are feeling and wanting to take away some of your sadness. He is probably feeling sad, too. Maybe he needs a hug?